top of page

Summary of MHT podcast - Episode 4 with Rafael Sanchez

Writer's picture: Clement Djaja Clement Djaja

Updated: Oct 13, 2021


The Men, Hardship and Triumph podcast series is a series of interviews with men as a resource for other men navigating the minefields of modern life. The men interviewed in this series talked about the difficulties of their lives, how they got through them and looking back, what strategies they used to survive the hard times.


Also a resource for men who are suffering from being separated from their children so that despite their suffering, they will still be able to do what is right by the children regardless of their circumstance as well as for people who grew up in less than ideal family conditions to not repeat the mistakes of their parents to break their intergenerational cycle of suffering.


In this episode, Clement shoots the breeze with Raf Sanchez, the director of Go Dance, a latin dance school in Sydney, Australia. Raf talks about growing up in a family with domestic violence, leaving home at the age of 15 and relying on life as a parent. Raf also discusses his strategies for dealing with mental health issues, drug and alcohol, and his dream project to break the cycle that turns today's victim of domestic violence into tomorrow's perpetrator.


A summary of his strategies and what he learnt are listed below;

1. to expose yourself to more people so you can learn alternative ways of approaching life that can be healthier and more productive

2. when things are bleak, deal with it one day at a time

3. to identify what you can control

4. to occupy your time with things that can help propel you forward such as reading, exercising and talking to a friend

5. to have a crazy goal that really motivates you to create hope for a better future, also to imagine the best possible version of yourself and start to fight to become that

6. to research where or how you can get support because support may not be as expensive or as scarce as you think! He recommended a book titled “How to stop worrying and start living” by Dale Carnegie

7. to fill your “life skill tool box” bit by bit so that future hardships will become less scary and more manageable

8. to not focus so much on your end goal that you are not appreciating the present

9. to hit rock bottom is a gift that shows that what you are doing up to that point is not for you and that you have a clean slate to rebuild any direction you like



To learn more about Go Dance, go to https://www.godance.com.au/


62 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All

Comments


bottom of page